Read This Before You Give Away Your Personal Power
Read This Before You Give Away Your Personal Power A lot of people go to see specialists like doctors, mechanics, therapists who know more about a problem than we do when they them. In the modern world, this is truly amazing, especially if you live in a larger city, because you may have hundreds of people, within a half hours drive from you, all with specialist knowledge, years of training and willing to serve. I’m all about learning and trying to understand a problem that you might have yourself and trying to be well studied in lots of subjects. But it can be very hard to learn about specialized topics that take years to learn to all the greatest depths, and so, when we have a larger more significant problem, we need to share this challenge we are facing with other people to assist us. There seems to be two types of people in this world when we look at this sort of relationship with specialized knowledge: People who seek help from others for everything People who hate to seek because they want to be seen as capable, don’t like to be told what to do and don’t like giving up control. Like many things in life, it’s wise to sit squarely in the middle and have the ability to see either side and achieve what needs to be achieved by going in either direction. Seek help when needed. Do it on your own when needed. But, most importantly, remove the emotional charges of always feeling like you need help from someone other than you, or, in the second example, often feeling like everyone is out to get you or that you don’t need anyone else. It’s not the specialist that’s the problem, it’s who they are associated to, what their motivations are and can they truly be unbiased, impartial and make decisions WITH YOU AND FOR YOU within your values and needs. This problem is also compounded by certain authorities being part of associations and certain (dare I say) cliques or clubs where fees, commissions and biased information can truly take out the impartiality. As a coach I truly strive to help my clients create a deeper understanding of their situation, both externally as well as internally. I’ve had a few times over the years where I could probably have sought support of some kind for major personal issues that I had had; a bit of depression, going through a life transition and wondering if getting a diagnosis for ADHD in adulthood would be beneficial. But I always felt comfortable enough (maybe through confidence or stubbornness) that I could figure it out on my own. I knew that if I just kept moving I would figure it out. Try this? Try that! Read this. Do it this way instead. Something would eventually give. And if not, I could always seek external help anyway. So if you ever have a big problem or challenge you’re facing, don’t be afraid. Sit with it first. Own it. Say to yourself, “I have an obstacle”. And then celebrate because you had to have moved in the first place to be able to get to where you are now to even have this new problem that you didn’t have before. Smile at it and thank it for all that it’s giving you in new awarenesses and new opportunities. Give it a label yourself and develop any broad or deep awareness around it that you can. Don’t let someone else name it for you just yet. It’s yours, so you get to define it! It’s yours, so you get to come up with the solution and next steps. And then, if need be, you can still change the label and action steps again the next day. Get curious. Ultimately many of us want a solution to our problem but end up with a label and an identity. It’s your situation so why not label it yourself? With all that said, if it’s getting worse faster than you can explore it, best to seek help immediately. What are YOU going to do about your current situation? Peer over the edge and look deep inside, edge finder. What a beautiful way to get to know yourself and love yourself… ~Brett Solomano All Posts Articles Reader Question: Am I Just Being Jealous? September 22, 2024/ Reader Question: Am I Just Being Jealous? I’m really jealous of my girlfriend who has numerous guy friends. She’s… Read More Why Self-Discipline is the Ultimate Act of Liberation. May 16, 2024/No Comments The truth couldn’t be far more liberating. Self-discipline is the foundation for creating true freedom in your life. This article… Read More The Benefits of Developing Persistence and How to Keep It. May 15, 2024/1 Comment The Benefits of Developing Persistence and How to Keep It. Persistence can be a difficult journey, especially when starting!… Read More Load More End of Content.
What is Your Vision for Success? (Hint: It’s What’s Behind the Money.)
What is Your Vision for Success? (Hint: It’s What’s Behind the Money.) Think of two musicians. One is a talented man who is playing on a busy mall on a Sunday afternoon. He has gotten the correct permit from the right authority. He has his business card and CDs (that he created himself). He runs a few social media channels himself and posts updates about upcoming performances, how good his last performances were along with teasing new songs and material to his small but passionate fanbase. These are all the skills he had to learn himself. He unpacks all his gear from his van and wheels it to his favorite spot, making several trips and running back and forward to get it all done quickly. Then taking half an hour to set up and do a sound check. He plays for a few hours, smiles for photos with some fans and gives out a few business cards (with QR codes to his social media channels). As the sun starts going down, he checks his hat, which now has a few hundred dollars cash in it and his Venmo account, which also has a couple of hundred dollars in it, starts to pack up his collection of speakers and instruments and then heads home. He had a great day playing music for his audience on a local main street corner. He will now spend many hours this week updating his social media, responding to new comments from audience members and getting ready for his new album launch. All of which he will do himself. Learn more about my keynote speaking engagements where I talk about life lessons I learned from being a professional stuntman. Another musician is a lead guitarist. That’s all he does. He plays in a well known band and travels the country and sometimes to other countries six to nine months out of the year. He is paid a reasonable salary and his schedule is booked out months ahead for him. While he has little control over where and when he needs to show up for performances due to his contract, he does enjoy traveling and being in a new city multiple times per week, while meeting fans and hanging with friends from far away places. He does miss his family and friends back home who don’t get to see him too often. As show time rolls around, tonight is a larger performance than most, at one of the biggest cities on that side of the country. He goes through the same pre-show routine, double checking with his technicians and managers. Everything is good. His system, as well as the band’s, is flawless. He contributed to creating such a tight and perfect routine and now just has to show up. He and the whole band crush it to a sell out crowd like they do every night, playing the same songs in the same order, using the same jokes and “We love you”s. Afterwards they all go backstage for beers and an after party with a few local celebrities, VIPs and competition winners and receive pats on the back about how good they were and answer the same questions (like “where do you get your inspiration?”) that they do from fans every night. He had a great day playing music for his audience. He then heads to bed in the tour bus while he gets driven several hours throughout the night to the next city, before he wakes up to do it all again. He has four more months of this until he will return home. Which one of the above would you rather be? Does one sound like hard work more than the other? Does one sound more easy, rewarding and inspiring? Success can come in many forms. Money is not the only metric and the impact we have on others and the value we receive to ourselves can be measured in many ways. And the beautiful thing is that we get to design our life the way we want. Onwards and upwards, my friend, as you design yours the way you want. ~ Brett Solomano
