How to Overcome FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)

If you wonder why you’re not having the success with money, in relationships or your career, you may have a little bit of FOMO going on.

Unsuccessful freelancers (often these can be creative types and people attempting to be self-employed) go through this thing called the Fear of Missing Out. They don’t commit to something because they don’t want to lose something better. They want to keep their options open to go for the best jobs. They wait until there is absolutely no other choice and take whatever is in front of them.

It also seems to be common in other places such as dating and relationships these days. It comes from an over stimulation and an abundance of opportunities. With online dating and social media, so many people have so many options and a constant stimulus of people “liking” them and their stuff. With so many opportunities just how do we know which one is the right one?

There is a joke in the film industry that if you want your next job then book yourself a holiday and you’ll get offered a job for that exact time not long after you’ve booked it. There are also other sayings that you may have heard of such as “it never rains, except when it pours” and “true friends will be there for you when need them and expect nothing from you when you don’t”.

There is two states of being in each of these metaphors. Each have a scarce state and an abundant state.

The difference between the two?


A good freelancer will tell you though that the secret to their success is that they are constantly sowing seeds and nurturing all opportunities. They don’t have the FOMO!

These in demand freelancers will tell you,  if you don’t pitch for work you will probably get nothing! They don’t wait for it to come to them. They plant all their seeds and reap the one that brings fruit first.

They know they must…

Create many options to have the best choices!


Big action cures fear!

As they say, if you want something done. Give it to a busy person. Fill your time up today…with something, anything!

Build something. Build multiple things and let the less desirable options fall away naturally. Which are the least desirable options? Well you’ll know when you know. If you don’t know yet build them both!

I’m a “have my cake and eat it too” kind of guy, meaning if someone says do you want chocolate or strawberry I’ll have both. And I believe a life can be lived fulfilled AND balanced. You should never have to sacrifice something for something else…at least not in the long term. We can’t obviously be in two places at once but we CAN build two, three or ten relationships or projects in a week. ESPECIALLY if they are related to each other!

So if you’ve been procrastinating something, moving forward with that job or building a relationship with that beautiful person, build them both. Lock something down. Commit to a time or an outcome. Send out resumes to as many jobs or companies as you can and be serious about and present to the connection and opportunities in them all.

As they say, life is what happens to you when you’re busy making other plans.

You never know what the future holds. Don’t wait for it to come to you. Create it and all possible futures now!

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